Showing posts with label True Life Story. Show all posts
Showing posts with label True Life Story. Show all posts

Friday, 1 September 2017

How People Make Their Rulers Monsters and Other lessons by Otunba Adeniyi Adebayo

When Otunba Niyi Adebayo won the election to be the Governor of Ekiti State, in 1999, not many people gave him a chance of making any meaningful impact because he was considered a greenhorn. What people, however, did not know was that the young man watching his father, late General Robert Adeyinka Adebayo, former Military Governor of the old Western Region of Nigeria, had gained a lot of insights even without being an active participant.
Niyi, a lawyer by profession, shares notes on his life in the Government House in Ekiti, and lessons for other professionals who want to venture into politics. Enjoy the reading.
Lesson 1: Politics is not dirty.
People use statements like ‘politics is a dirty game’ to drive good people away from politics. For me, what I have come to discover is that the more good people go into politics, the cleaner it will become. If you have clean people going into politics, they will clean up the system. Interestingly people who are insider want to prevent other people from coming in because they don’t want competition, they tell you it is a dirty game, don’t come. No, it is not. That is what I found out. What is politics about? It is about the people who will be in charge of the country. If you don’t have good people in charge of the country, you do not have a good country. So, the cleaner the people that come in, the better it would be for the country. My advice to professionals, Christians, Muslims, and religious people is that the more good people we have in politics, the better for our country. Once you have something good to offer, give it a shot. You never can know what impact you can make.
Lesson 2: You need to create your own identity
For me, going into politics was not to make money; it was about making a name. When you are the child of a successful man, you are always in his shadow. I wanted to come out from under that shadow and make my own name, so that people would not refer to me as General Adebayo’s son, but rather as Niyi Adebayo. I believe I was able to achieve that because my going into politics was not self-serving. It was about service to my people and I saw it as stepping stone to greater things. I do not believe my political life has ended yet. I believe there is still more on the horizon for me politically which I am working towards.
Lesson 3: People turn their rulers into monsters.
One lesson I learnt while in government is that it is people that make governors or presidents to misbehave when they get into office. It is the people that you are governing that turn you into a monster. As a governor, people believe that their whole lives are dependent on you. That is, if they get into your right hand, they can become billionaires tomorrow, even without doing anything. To a large extent, that is true. It will only take one contract and you are made. Consequently, people do not tell their rulers the truth because they want to be in their good books. They elevate them to a god-like status. Even when you are doing foolish things, they will tell you ‘brilliant’, and because everybody is praising you, after a while you too will begin to believe that you are doing the right thing and you begin to question your judgment. And as you keep imbibing their praise-singing, you may lose control of yourself. So, to be a good governor or administrator and not lose control, this is where a good wife comes in handy because when you are losing control, she will tell you things as they are -frankly. But if you don’t have that kind of wife, you will lose control and start to believe everything they tell you even when you know they are not accurate. You start fighting real critics that are criticising you for the good of all. The sycophants will be telling you ‘what do they know, don’t mind them, they are only seeking attention.’ You know as you keep listening to them after a while, you begin to believe the sycophants and everybody that disagrees with you becomes an enemy. I experienced this first hand. It was my wife who helped me to keep my focus.
So, you need a good wife and good old friends, preferably those you grew up together with. Make sure you give them access to you because they will tell you the truth because they know where you are coming from.
I had my father’s experience to teach me. I saw my father as a governor. I saw him after office; I saw how people were with him when he was the governor, I saw how fewer people were with him afterwards. I was able to come to terms with the fact that this thing is temporary; it is not forever. Another luck I had was that I grew up in Lagos; I lived in Lagos. I went to be the governor in Ekiti. When I ended up being governor I came back to Lagos and what I did whenever I was in Lagos as governor, and I want to go out to the polo club or any other such places to relax. I would drive myself; I would take along a security man in mufti. He would wait for me in the car; I would move normal like before. So, I tried as much as possible to be my normal self.
Lesson 4: Give access to as many people as you can
As the governor then, I saw that you could be imprisoned and shut away from good people. But if worked against that by ensuring that as many people that needed to see me had access to me. I would read any letter somebody wrote to me. If it is something I should pass to someone else, I would minute on it. If I needed to reply, I would reply. I was doing that because that was the only way I could get a feel of what was going on in the state. You knew how people were feeling about you. That way, I knew what was happening in the state. Sometimes even before I get security report from the security agencies, I already knew what happened because somebody had already written and told me about it.   I got very useful information this way including an experience where I learnt that my associates were using my name to collect money from those who wanted to get Cof O. I was able to address that by information by an ordinary person who I allowed to see me on a Sunday.
Lesson 5: You need a good home to achieve your dreams.
First of all, I would say that I have been blessed by God because I married a very wonderful woman. My wife is a very wonderful, brilliant and very supportive woman. At a time when I was a struggling lawyer, she was in employment. She had a salary, but I didn’t have. Well, I started with a salary but after working for two years, I set up my own practice. So for quite a while it was a bit of a struggle. But she was there very supportive; she had her salary. If she had not been supportive at the time, life would have been difficult. As a politician, you need a supportive wife. If your wife is harassing you at home, you won’t concentrate in the office. As a matter of fact, as a governor, if your wife is not supportive, you just wouldn’t have the mental wherewithal to perform your duties as a governor.
I must say the women in my life have been supportive because to a large extent I was brought up by my mother.
Lesson 5: God is number one.
I am a practising Anglican; I try as much as possible to go to church every Sunday. I say my prayers every morning before I leave my house. I try to
my duty to God because He has been very good to me and my family. I will continue to praise and glorify his name.
Lesson 6: Friendship is important.
Making and keeping friends has been an important aspect of my journey. I don’t have problems making friends. I have lots of friends. I always tell people that you will not encounter a problem with your friends if you know who they are. So, I always try to know and understand what people are, so that we don’t have problems. If I know you to behave in a certain way and you behave that way to me, it doesn’t create a problem for me because that is what I expect. You hardly ever hear that OtunbaAdebayo and somebody are fighting. Friendship is important to me. I am faithful to my friends and my friends are faithful to me.
Lesson 7: Fun time
I like to have fun. I like to hang out with my friends, sit down have drinks, gist, play. Now and then I go to parties. It is important to enjoy the day as it comes and as you are allowed by God to experience it.
Best advice
One thing my father used to say to all his children while we were growing up was to remember your name. It is not only for you; it is for everybody. If you spoil it, it affects everybody not only you. So, whatever you do in this life, make sure you have a good name. I hold unto that and I have passed it unto my children.
Books
I enjoy reading history. I can’t think of any book that was written on Nigerian Civil War that I have not read. I like biographies. I love reading John F. Kennedy. The other one that has impacted on me greatly was the biography of Abraham Lincoln.
Regret
I started the medical school for the University in Ado-Ekiti. When we collected money from the bond, there was a certain amount of money I was supposed to
release to them for the takeoff of the college. Unfortunately, because of administrative lapses I wasn’t able to release that money to them before I left office: that is regret. Other people have tried to take credit for starting the College of Medicine, but I refuse to accept that. I started it; I appointed the first provost; but unfortunately, we were not able to release funds to them for the takeoff before we left office. To a large extent, I have that regret.

Monday, 31 July 2017

Unbelievable True Life Story of Success

It takes courage to share true life stories especially when it has to do with failures. You might find this unbelievable but this is my true life story. I'm sharing with you so that you can as well have success at the end. 
True Life Story
Let me go straight to my story. I like to keep this brief because I don't want to bore you.


My name is Sola Mathew. I was born in the far Northern state of Nigeria, Jalingo, Taraba state. 

As you know, not everyone is born with a silver spoon. Some were born with golden, some with clay spoon and some with wooden spoon. Mine was with a semi silver spoon and it was almost taken away from me.


The Struggle After The Death 


All things were going smoothly until 1996. I was 6 years old then. My Dad gave up the ghost. For some that don't understand that, I meant, he died. 

My family started struggling but thank God for my Mum who was a Tailor and trader. 
Of course, she was into those businesses to support her husband who was a soldier in the Nigeria Army. 

After 7 years of loneliness, my mum decided to remarry. 

On the day she gave birth to her last child, she died. So pathetic! I cried and my eyes almost gushed out but that couldn't bring her back. 

Consequently, we all moved to Ado-Ekiti, Ekiti State, My hometown. 

The Orphan Life


Nobody to take care of us. Only my Aunt, the younger sister to my Mum took us in.

My only sister gained admission to college but because of fund, she had to drop out. She is now into tailoring. 

I had to stay with several people and attended several denominations. 

Angels As Humans 


Through a woman, Mrs Ige, I gained admission to Ado Grammar School, Ado-Ekiti. 

I was DEDICATED TO WIN. 

I graduated as the best student and senior boy in that school. 

I was able to do that because of an advice by a woman, Mrs Fatoba, who said READ AS IF YOU ARE NOT PRAYING AND PRAY AS IF YOU ARE NOT READING.
I hope that helps someone struggling academically. 

After secondary school, I couldn't gain admission in time and when I eventually did, there was no school fees. 

Again, Mrs Ige resurfaced and we began to look for school fees.

To cut that story short, we got help from two churches, Anglican and CAC. That was how I paid my 100 Level School fees. 

In my 100 level, I was serious and had good set of friends. I had 3.55 as my CPA even though I resumed late because of my school fees.

Distracted


Second semester of that 100 level, I bought a BB phone and that affected my academics. I had a cumulative CPA of 3.05 in 100L.

Later, I had a message by some folks in school that almost destroyed my academic career. They preached that academics is babylon. That affected my studies the more. 

His Word


However, thank God, He restored me. He told me I would pass out with a Second Class Upper Division. 

That came to pass when I reapplied the advice of Mrs Fatoba. 

Wait! At that time (my final year) I was the Assistant Drama Coordinator of my Fellowship, the Zonal Congress Coordinator, The President of my NGO, the Financial Secretary of the largest group on campus (Watchtower) and I had my project.

With all that, my results for that section was the best. It shot me to the Second Class Upper Division that God told me about. I made Ain all my courses including my Final Year Project. Except for a Bin a course. 

Truly, there is nothing God cannot do. 

Favoured by Grace 


How did I pay the rest of my school fees? I'll quickly go through that.

In 200 Level, my former secondary school teacher, Mrs Adejuyigbe connected me with a woman who gave me ₦100,000 to pay my school fees. The school fee was ₦99,750. That's EKSU! 

In 300 Level, the woman gave me ₦50,000 out of my school fees. That was what she had. I borrowed to complete it. 

In 400 Level, I wrote an article on my Facebook about how God has been helping me and one man saw it. The man never liked or commented on my posts before. 
He called me over phone and you know what happened? He paid my school fees and my project fee. 

Becareful what you post on social media. It can either make or mark you. 

I was able to pay up the money I borrowed in 300 Level with the remaining money. 


Today, I'm a graduate and serving currently in Taraba State. 

While in University also, I was not idle, I used to repair people's laptops including my lecturers and I was into blogging. That helped my feeding and purchase of handouts. Thanks to my friends who also helped.

I know I am not where I am going yet but I am not where I used to be. God's favour, Mercy and grace have found me.

Quickly, I'll like to tell you some of the things that helped me. 

  • Suffering is not a yardstick to failure or success, it's what you define it.
  • Read books. Great Men read books. You're a sum total of what you read. 
  • Build your character. Your gifts would open doors for you but it's your character that would keep the doors opened. 
  • Invest but investigate first. Don't invest in what you have not investigated. 
  • Fail many times, it's part of success. It shows you're doing something but learn from your failures. 
  • Live a life of love. You can give without love but you cannot love without giving. 
  • I didn't write for you to get emotional but that you might learn from my story. 
About the Writer:

Sola Mathew is a Blogger and Podcaster at Charity Connect Podcast. He helps individuals and businesses set up their blogs and podcasts. You can download his simple guide on How to start a Blog/Podcast on www.charityconnectpodcast.com/start-your-podcast. You can also connect with him on Facebook and twitter.
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Saturday, 14 January 2017

Short Documentary of Pa. Elton, the English Missionary to Nigeria

Today January 14th marks the 30th Anniversary of the transition to glory of English missionary to Nigeria - Rev. S.G Elton, fondly called Pa. Elton.

The newspapers, radios or TVs might not be agog in celebrating him or showering him with accolades but the impact of his missionary sojourn in Nigeria spanning 1937-1987 (50years) has raised many frontline and prominent ministers of the gospel, particularly ushering Nigeria into the Pentecostal movement.

Saturday, 1 October 2016

Mr Adeseke Denies Molesting His Children and Beating His Wife

Last week, I posted a report from SDK Blog on this blog about Domestic violence and Rape Case of Mr Adeseke who have been alleged to have molested his children. You can read that here.

Consequently, several comments arose especially in EKSU where the man works and I personally received calls from his different people wanting to know if it was true or not.

Since then, I had been talking to different people about the issue seeking to know if it actually happened or not. During my survey, only one percent of students believed he could do that while the remaining percentage believed Mr Adeseke would not even try that. Although, most of them said he likes women. In fact, some of the students took it to themselves to write post declaiming the case as a scam.

Since it is not enough to hear from the students only, I personally went ahead to interview Mr Adeseke and you would be shocked to hear what Mr Adeseke has to say.

Friday, 9 September 2016

Please Save Me - Episode 1

Just before he could cover it, the rain had started falling. 😢 He then looked around the Bush but only him was around. He could only hear the pee pee and chukuru chukuru sounds of birds. 

Saturday, 25 April 2015

Go And Do Likewise by Olawale Perfect

I was just scrolling through my facebook timeline when I saw this story again of the guy that trekked from Lagos to Abuja because Buhari won the election. Sincerely, it is a commendable effort.

Somebody might say why is he wasting his time but the truth is that he was able to process a point
which is that anything is possible for the determined person. I can imagine him get tired and hungry some of the time, I can imagine some people calling him to say "why are you wasting your time like this".

I can imagine people saying

Friday, 24 April 2015

My Last Girl (Series 2)

On Tuesday morning, Frank called me to remind me of the tutorial class he had organized for his class in which he wanted me to take.
He heard I made an 'A' in the course when I was in 200Level while most students failed the course that year. I could remember, the next grade to me was a 'C', the only 'C'. The rest were 'D's and below.
 
So, being the Governor of his class, he made arrangements for me to come and tutor them.
 
Apart from the fact that I love teaching, another factor I would denied food to tutor students, especially lower classes, was that I met new preys I predate on.

Saturday, 18 April 2015

My Last Girl (Story Series)


"I'm so sorry!" I exclaimed. I didn't mean to smash your books.

She turned and gave me a warm smile and replied "It's okay."

That smile was the type that I had never seen in my entire life. Her set of teeth were so glittering and the lips were calling.

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